Is An Independent Woman All That She's Cracked Up To Be?

Is An Independent Woman All That She’s Cracked Up To Be?

Of course men want an independent woman. To be honest that is what most men are looking for these days. A man would rather be with a woman who has an education, career and goals of her own because depending on the type of man, having an independent woman can benefit him in many ways. She can influence him to achieve his dreams and aspirations, and she’s able to give him the support he needs just in case if things get rough on his end and he can no longer hold the fort down.

There are different types of men, and each type likes and wants an independent woman for different reasons. Let’s say you are dealing with a very successful man who has his own. The woman that he wants will either have just as much, or working towards having just as much, as he does. Or let’s say you have the needy man, the man that wants his woman to do everything. He likes an independent woman because he knows she will help support and take care of him because she cares and is in a position to do so. No matter which way you look at it, the answer to the question, “do men manly really want an independent woman?” is yes. To a man, an independent woman is the best thing since slice bread. So if you are a woman and you are pursuing your dreams, know that there is a man out there, just for you.

On the other hand, the reason why one would be of the opinion that independent women aren’t all they’re cracked up to be is simple. Being an independent woman is a beautiful thing, except when you use it as a weapon to fire shots at your mate, or as a shield to guard your emotions, or as a badge to belittle your man. Then yes, being an independent woman isn’t cool. Using your independence as a weapon to constantly attack your mate because he has made mistakes or didn’t achieve all of his goals will make him unwilling to share and communicate his flaws and weaknesses. Once he starts to feel this way about sharing and communicating with you, the relationship is doomed to failure. You also have some women who hide behind their independence like a shield, because they are afraid of allowing a man to get too close to them emotionally. We all know that emotions are the one thing in life no one can control, but you can control how far you are going to take your independence. By hiding behind your independence, you inhibit your man from getting to know the real you, and that too leads to a doomed relationship.

Now let’s speak about the beauty of being an independent woman. To be an independent woman means, no matter what obstacles life has thrown your way, you manage to find your success. Independent woman will hold their man down in times of struggle, take care of the kids and still have time for herself. She is a superwoman in her own right, and to have her means she will catch you when you fall, dust you off and show you how to get back on track. An independent woman will be supportive of who you are as a man, and when you fall short, she will check you on it. An independent woman doesn’t conduct herself as if she is her mate’s mother, she is his partner. She knows when to take the back burner and let her man lead, and she will be his backbone the whole way there. So yes, being an independent woman is definitely all it’s cracked up to be, when it is done right.

Check out what the panel of What Would a Man Do has to say about this topic in the video below:

- Qualah

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November 13th, 2011 | Mara | Comments Off |