Ladies, ladies, ladies! This article will help you dry your tears over Mr. Wrong and inspire you to be happy after a breakup. We have all been there – either you were dumped or you dumped another person. However your story goes, you still feel down in the dumps. You cry after hearing ‘your song,’ or you pass by what used to be your favorite restaurant, and cry.
He was supposed to be the one, right? He used to make you smile, melt your fears and be the man of your dreams. Well, to your dismay, you realize he isn’t prince charming and the two of you go your separate ways. As hard as it may seem, you will get over this and move on to something (or someone) better! But in the meantime, how do you stop crying and start living again? Resist the urge to splurge on chocolate cake and ice cream, and instead, look inward. You can be happy in an instant! Here’s how:
– Make a decision right now that you are going to be happy today no matter what!
Before you start your day, make a conscious decision that you will be happy and that your past relationship was just one aspect of your life, not your whole life.
– Realize you are in control of your emotions, not your experiences!
This is a biggie! Most of us learned to react to the things that happen to us and always assign meaning to our experiences. Instead of following that common path, focus on the truth – you are making a decision to feel bad. You are focusing on loss, not what you gained from the experience. It is ok to cry and feel sad, but release it and let it go. You don’t have to wallow in your pain. Focus on the things that make you happy – find things you truly enjoy doing and get busy doing them. The more you focus on you, the happier you will be! If you don’t know what makes you happy, try doing something new that is out of your comfort zone. You may be surprised at what you like!
– Visualize yourself happy.
The mind is very powerful! If we ‘see’ ourselves happy, the easier it is to feel that emotion. See yourself smiling again, and feeling love.
– Pamper yourself.
Do you love candles, bubble baths, roses, etc? Great! Make sure you give those gifts to yourself! Don’t wait for a mate to pamper you! Do it for yourself – you are special!!
– Date yourself.
This is tough for most of us because we’ve been conditioned to believe we need a man to date. But dating yourself is a wonderful way to show yourself love through tough times. You can go to the movies, go out to eat or go other places with yourself. You may find that you will connect with yourself on a different level.
– Focus on the things you love about yourself and make a list – you are a great catch!
Just because your relationship came to an end doesn’t mean you are unlovable. Write a list detailing the things you love about you. If you can’t find anything you love, ask friends or family members what they find great about you and read that list twice a day! Know you are worthy and lovable and that you will attract a better relationship. Realize the end of your relationship does not mean the end for you. It’s ending is really a beginning.
You will find love again. Until then, get busy loving yourself!
– Ci Ci Foster